Reviewed August 2026

    Mediation in New Hampshire

    New Hampshire courts can order mediation in any case involving disputed parental rights and responsibilities, but the law does not make it automatic in every case. Under RSA 461-A:7, a court may order the parties to mediate custody, child support, property, and alimony issues together when parental rights and responsibilities are contested. This includes requests to modify an earlier order. Once a court orders mediation, it typically covers everything relevant to the case, not just custody, unless the court says otherwise. New Hampshire also requires mediation before certain college expense disputes go to a hearing, under RSA 461-A:24. The state licenses its family mediators through a certification board created by RSA 328-C. A New Hampshire family mediator is not simply anyone who wants to call themselves one.

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    Mediation in New Hampshire family court

    When a New Hampshire court orders mediation

    RSA 461-A:7 lets a court order mediation in any case involving disputed parental rights and responsibilities or grandparent visitation rights, including modification requests. Once ordered, mediation generally covers all relevant issues in the case, including child support and property and alimony questions under RSA 458, unless the court limits the scope.

    The statute lists reasons a court may decline to order mediation. These include undue hardship to a party, a finding of alcoholism or drug abuse unless all parties agree anyway, and an allegation of serious psychological or emotional abuse. Another reason is the lack of an available mediator within a reasonable time. RSA 461-A:24 separately requires mediation, either privately arranged or through the court, before any hearing to modify or enforce a college expense agreement.

    Domestic violence limits on mediation

    RSA 461-A:7(V) bars a court from ordering mediation if there has been a finding of domestic violence as defined in RSA 173-B:1. This bar does not apply if all parties agree to mediate anyway. The same limit applies to mediation of child support arrearage disputes under the statute's contempt provisions. Either party can also move to have an assigned mediator replaced for good cause under the statute.

    Certified family mediators

    New Hampshire requires its court-referred family mediators to be certified under RSA 328-C, administered by a board of family mediator certification. To become certified, an applicant must complete at least 48 hours of board-approved training, including at least 8 hours on domestic violence, plus family dynamics and relevant law. The applicant must also complete a 20-hour internship with a certified mediator. Finally, the applicant must submit at least three recommendations from people who worked with them on family mediation.

    Certification lasts three years and requires 24 hours of continuing education to renew. The board maintains a public list of certified family mediators and training programs. A qualified intern can participate in mediation under a certified supervisor's direct oversight.

    Confidentiality of mediation

    RSA 461-A:7(VII) requires mediation to be held in private, with all related communications privileged, confidential, and inadmissible in court, subject to the exceptions in RSA 328-C:9. That chapter spells out those exceptions. The privilege can be waived by all parties. It does not cover a material misstatement of fact that would amount to perjury. It also does not protect information about abuse, sexual abuse, or neglect, or about a felony or misdemeanor that has been or is about to be committed. A certified mediator generally cannot be subpoenaed to testify about a case outside those exceptions.

    Fees and how agreements become orders

    When both parties in a New Hampshire mediation are indigent, the mediator is paid a set fee established annually by state supreme court rule. That fee is drawn from the mediation and arbitration fund. That fund is partly financed by a percentage, capped at 25 percent, of the entry fee paid on domestic relations petitions.

    Under RSA 461-A:7(VIII), any agreement the parties reach on all or part of the disputed issues must be put in writing. It must be signed by each party and filed with the court as soon as practicable. If the mediator decides mediation is not helping resolve the dispute, the mediator reports that back to the court. The case then returns for the court to decide the remaining issues.

    Sources: RSA 461-A:7, Mediation of Cases Involving Children, RSA 461-A:24, Mediation of Agreements on College Expenses, RSA 328-C, Family Mediators (certification, qualifications, confidentiality)

    Not independently confirmed

    • The current annual fee amount set by New Hampshire Supreme Court rule for mediating indigent-party cases was not independently confirmed.
    • Local circuit court family division practice on how quickly mediation is scheduled after a court order can vary by county and was not confirmed for each location.

    Mediation in New Hampshire: frequently asked questions

    Is mediation mandatory in a New Hampshire custody case?+

    Not automatically. RSA 461-A:7 gives the court discretion to order mediation in any case involving disputed parental rights and responsibilities or grandparent visitation, including modification requests. Once ordered, mediation typically covers all related issues, including child support and property.

    Can a New Hampshire court order mediation if there has been domestic violence?+

    No, not without agreement. RSA 461-A:7(V) bars a court from ordering mediation where there has been a finding of domestic violence under RSA 173-B:1. The court can still order it if all parties agree to mediate despite that finding.

    Who can serve as a family mediator in New Hampshire?+

    Only mediators certified under RSA 328-C by the board of family mediator certification can serve in court-referred cases. Certification requires at least 48 hours of approved training, including 8 hours on domestic violence, a 20-hour internship, and references. Certification lasts three years and is subject to continuing education.

    Is New Hampshire family mediation confidential?+

    Yes. Under RSA 461-A:7(VII) and RSA 328-C:9, mediation is held in private and communications made during it are privileged and inadmissible in court. Exceptions exist if all parties waive the privilege, if a party lies under oath-like conditions, or if the mediator learns of abuse, neglect, or a crime.

    What happens if I cannot afford a mediator in New Hampshire?+

    If both parties are indigent, the mediator is paid a set fee established annually by New Hampshire Supreme Court rule. That fee is funded through the state's mediation and arbitration fund. The fund is financed in part by a portion of domestic relations filing fees.

    How does a mediated agreement become a court order in New Hampshire?+

    Under RSA 461-A:7(VIII), any agreement reached in mediation must be reduced to writing, signed by each party, and filed with the court as soon as practicable. If mediation does not resolve the dispute, the mediator reports that to the court, which then decides the remaining issues.

    This page is general information about mediation in New Hampshire, not legal advice for your situation. Laws, fees, and procedures change over time; confirm current details with New Hampshire's own courts before relying on anything here. Virdix is not a law firm and is not licensed to practice law in New Hampshire. Virdix does not prepare or file New Hampshire divorce paperwork. It is not a substitute for an attorney licensed in New Hampshire.

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